Relationship Science and Wedding Vows
Weddings are a significant life event, a cherished moment and an eternal precious memory. But why are weddings so important and why are they drenched in such significance? If we look at it from a logical perspective, it is because weddings acknowledge a relationship and recognise a couple in love. Who doesn’t want to celebrate love? But the emotional impact of a wedding lies in the vows, the promises that the couple make to one and other and their promise of a future together. Shedding a tear at a wedding usually comes about when the vows are read. It is the vulnerability of the moment that will pull the heart strings of even the most pessimistic of souls.
Romantic researchers have spent time contemplating on the vulnerability of vows as well as the science of love. Soppy vows have become a permanent fixtures in most weddings with couples trying to create their very own Shakespearean-like sonnets. Yes, these soppy vows really do pull the heart strings (if done correctly) however, a change would be nice. How about keeping your vows almost scientific? Make behavioural promises to one and other instead of making emotional (and somewhat impossible) promises to one and other?
Here are our top 5 behavioural promises that could lead to long term marital bliss:
• I promise to admire and appreciate you for who you are, as well as for the person you desire to become.
• I promise to respect your need for freedom; your choices are still YOUR choices to make.
• I promise to seek a pure understanding of your desires, your fears, your goals and your dreams.
• I promise to keep the passion in our lives, seeking adventure always.
• I promise to express, every single day, just how much you mean to me and how happy I am to have you in my life.